This is something I wrote a while ago, but I think it ties into my previous post, “Pops of Turquoise”, in relation to communication. 🙏🕉💚 Namaste!
As an independent party of humanity I have a suggestion…
Listen to your mothers. Protect your mother. Love your mother. Your mother is your first teacher, your first friend, your first love, your first doctor, your first protector, your first role model, your first every fucking thing! You dig?
If you aren’t listening to your mothers you are doing yourself a disservice. Mother’s Day is one of the biggest marketable holidays for a reason. Mothers step up more than fathers WAY MORE than the opposite.
I do get that some women may not have been as amazing as my mothers. I understand why you had to walk away. If she didn’t love you the way you deserve, your number one option is to protect yourself. Your peace of mind is a fragile thing and you have to protect it.
Fathers, you’ve been absent. And even if you are present you are distant. Are you protecting and loving your wife the way that you should? Or are you out here medicating an addiction that you have. That addiction can be alcohol, sex, women, video games, sports, or whatever the fuck y’all be doing when you aren’t around.
You need to be more present in your family. I know some amazing fathers and the key to the happiness of the family unit is their daily participation in their wife and children’s lives. Communication is essential between all parties. Stop avoiding each other and acting like everything is ok. Stop leaving the table before the discussion is over. Stop leaving the home because you just can’t deal with her shit. TELL HER WHAT YOU NEED!
I know it seems hard and that you are afraid that she’ll walk away, but she won’t. Mothers will always be there. Women will always be there. We never leave. We are the givers and sustainers of life. We are the backbone of society. We provide the instinctive medicine that comes from the gut, heart, and soul.
Set boundaries with your wife. Let her know that you sometimes just want to smoke and fucking chill. Let her know that she is being annoying. Sometimes people really don’t know! You have to speak up. Communication is the key. Stop leaving the discussion before you say everything you really mean.